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Some people say that sex outside of marriage

is a woman’s only choice if she wants a man.

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Some people say that abortion is a woman’s only choice

if she thinks she can’t mother a child.

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Some people say that, after an abortion,

a woman’s only choice is to carry the baggage of sin.

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Some people say that looking out for number one

is a woman’s only choice in a cold, hard world.

These are lies.

The truth is:

We have choices.

A woman who desires the true love of a man does not have to give him what he thinks he may want.  She has choices. 

•  She can do all she can to help raise his standard of behavior and hold him accountable.  She can nurture a friendship and trust which leads to marriage.  It is marriage that connects a man to responsibility, family, and the future. 

•  Or, she can walk away and patiently wait for a man who will “love her and honor her ‘til death do us part” before bedding her.  When a man says he wants to enjoy the most intimate of all relationships but does not want to commit to marriage, what is he saying?  Later, if the man decides he will marry her because she is pregnant, what is he saying? 

Real love, says God, is patient and kind. 

It does not insist on its own way.

It always protects, trusts, hopes, perseveres.

(1 CORINTHIANS 13:4-7)

Motherhood begins at conception.  At 24 days, the baby’s heart is beating.  At 43 days, brain waves are present.  This precious life results from the procreative act between God, a man, and a woman.  Everything that this child will ever be is already present.  The mother who carries this child has choices.

•  She can make an adoption plan, carry the baby to term, and lovingly place her son or daughter in the arms of a childless husband and wife.  Yes, it is difficult to experience the wonder of life growing inside the womb and then “give the baby away,” but such a choice sees beyond the here and now to a hopeful future for both mother and child.

•  She can adjust her personal plans to accommodate the little person who will not suck her life away but rather fill her life beyond measure.

•  She can surround herself with people who care for both mother and child.

I have made you, says the Lord, and I will carry you;

I will sustain you and I will rescue you.

(ISAIAH 46:4b)

Abortion, like all sins, can be forgiven.  Even after she has an abortion, a woman still has choices.

•  She can turn a deaf ear to Satan who wants her to be overwhelmed by guilt and grief and instead cry out to her Savior.

•  She can confess her sin of abortion to Jesus Christ.

•  She can trust that, in Christ, she is a forgiven woman.

No matter how deep the stain of your sins,

I can take it out and make you clean as freshly fallen snow . . .

I can make you white as wool.

(ISAIAH 1:18)

 It is not what we do that saves us, it is what God already did!  God thought of us before we were even conceived!  He created us!  He loved us so much that He paid the price for our sins with the blood of His Son and our Savior Jesus Christ!  Our value as human beings comes from God.  For this reason, God promises His faithfulness even through the struggles in a cold, hard world.  God never abandons us.  A woman in this world has choices –

•  She can put her trust in the Father God.  No matter if she has been abused by a man or abandoned by her earthly father, the Heavenly Father is faithful in every situation.

•  She does not have to build walls of self-preservation.  Jesus knows a woman’s heart and provides her every need.

•  She can find the path that leads away from death to life in God’s living Word.

I am the Lord, your God,

who takes hold of your right hand and says to you,

Do not fear; I will help you.

(ISAIAH 41:13)